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THE

LADIES BOOK OF ETIQUETTE,

AND

MANUAL OF POLITENESS.

A COMPLETE HAND BOOK FOR THE USE OF THE LADY IN POLITE SOCIETY,

CONTAINING

YULL DIRECTIONS FOR CORRECT MANNERS, DRESS, DEPORTMENT, AND COR.
VERSATION; RULES FOR THE DUTIES OF BOTH HOSTESS AND GUEST
I XORNING RECEPTIONS, DINNER COMPANIES, VISITING, EVEN-
ING PARTIES AND BALLS; A COMPLETE GUIDE FOR LET-
TER WRITING AND CARDS OF COMPLIMENT; HINTS
ON MANAGING SERVANTS, ON THE PRESER-
VATION OF HEALTH, AND ON AC-

COMPLISHMENTS.

AND ALSO

USEFUL RECEIPTS FOR THE COMPLEXION, HAIR, AND WITH HINTS

AND DIRECTIONS FOR THE CARE OF THE WARDROBE.

BY

FLORENCE HARTLEY,
ATTROR OF THE “ LADIES' AAND BOOK OF FANCY AND ORNAMENTAL WOBB."

BOSTON:
LEE & SHEPARD, PUBLISHERS.

NEW YORK:
LEE, SHEPARD, & DILLINGHAM.

THE NEW YORK
PUBLIC LIBRAM;
344280

ASTOR, LENOX AND
DEN FOUNDATIONS.

Entorod according to the Act of Congress, in the year 1860, by

G. G. EVANS, ha tho Clark's Office of the District Court for the Eastern District of

Pennsylvania

INTRODUCTION.

LALNUT

In preparing a book of etiquette for ladies, I would lay down as the first rule," Do unto others as you would others Ehould do to you.” You can never be rude if you bear the rule always in mind, for what lady likes to be treated rudely ? True Christian politeness will always be the result of an unselfish regard for the feelings of others, and though you may err in the ceremonious points of etiquette, you will never be impolite.

Politeness, founded upon such a rule, becomes the expression, in graceful manner, of social virtues. The spirit of politeness consists in a certain attention to forms and ceremonies, which are meant both to please others and ourselves, and to make others pleased with us; a still clearer definition may be given by saying that politeness is goodness of heart put into daily practice; there can be no true politeness without kindness, purity, singleness of heart, and sensibility.

Many believe that politeness is but a mask worn in the world to conceal bad passions and impulses, and to make a show of possessing virtues not really existing in the heart; thus, that politeness is merely hypocrisy and dissimulation. Do not believe this; be certain that those who profess such a doctrine are practising themselves the deceit they condemn so much. Such people scout politeness, because, to be truly a lady, one

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