Boundaries: When to Say Yes, when to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

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Zondervan, 1992 - Religion - 304 pages

Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.


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Part One What Are Boundaries?
A Day in a Boundaryless Life
What Does a Boundary Look Like?
Boundary Problems
How Boundaries Are Developed
Ten Laws of Boundaries
Common Boundary Myths
Boundaries and Your Children
Boundaries and Work
Boundaries and Your Self
Boundaries and God
Part Three Developing Healthy Boundaries
Resistance to Boundaries
How to Measure Success with Boundaries
A Day in a Life with Boundaries

Part Two Boundary Conflicts
Boundaries and Your Family
Boundaries and Your Friends
Boundaries and Your Spouse

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Cofounder of Cloud/Townsend Communications, Henry Cloud is a popular speaker and licensed psychologist. Cloud graduated with a doctorate in clinical psychology from Rosemead Graduate School of Psychology and maintains a private practice in Newport Beach, California. Also a cohost of the nationally broadcast "Minirth Meier New Life Clinic," Cloud has written numerous books with his business partner John Townsend, including Safe People, Twelve Christian Beliefs That Can Drive You Crazy, The Mom Factor, and the Gold Medallion award-winning Boundaries. On his own, Cloud, who specializes in individual adult psychotherapy, has written the books Changes That Heal: How to Understand Your Past to Ensure a Healthier Future and Secrets of Your Family Tree.

Dr. John Townsend is a leadership consultant, psychologist, and New York Times bestselling author. He has written twenty-seven books, selling 10 million copies, including the three million-selling Boundaries series. John is founder of the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling and conducts the Townsend Leadership program. He travels extensively for corporate consulting, speaking, and working with leadership families. He and his wife, Barbi, have two sons, and live in Newport Beach, California. One of John's favorite hobbies is playing in a band that performs in Southern California lounges and venues.

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