Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time"A beautiful and brilliant reexamination of love and its perils."—Barbara Fisher, Boston Globe Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A. Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships—it becomes increasingly dangerous. What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks. "Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it."—Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon "[A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered."—Publishers Weekly "Cheerful, open, and humane—you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst."—Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review "[T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic."—JoAnn Gutin, Salon.com |
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... woman relationships - Psychological aspects . 2. Love . I. Title . 306.7 - dc21 HQ801 .M59 2002 2001044452 ISBN 0-393-32373-0 pbk . W. W. Norton & Company , Inc. , 500 Fifth Avenue , New York , N.Y. 10110 www.wwnorton.com W. W. Norton ...
... woman relationships - Psychological aspects . 2. Love . I. Title . 306.7 - dc21 HQ801 .M59 2002 2001044452 ISBN 0-393-32373-0 pbk . W. W. Norton & Company , Inc. , 500 Fifth Avenue , New York , N.Y. 10110 www.wwnorton.com W. W. Norton ...
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... woman felt the " chemistry " was never right with the men she dated or when someone didn't know if he was " really in love " with another person ? How could these personal stalemates be opened up , energized in the process of therapy ...
... woman felt the " chemistry " was never right with the men she dated or when someone didn't know if he was " really in love " with another person ? How could these personal stalemates be opened up , energized in the process of therapy ...
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... woman with whom he can sustain his desire . He is physically attractive and has a position in the music business ... woman for him . He then feels compelled to feign excitement and experiences the woman's inti- mate feelings as ...
... woman with whom he can sustain his desire . He is physically attractive and has a position in the music business ... woman for him . He then feels compelled to feign excitement and experiences the woman's inti- mate feelings as ...
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... woman , much younger , with whom he had once had a brief sexual encounter , reappeared in his life . Linda was a kind of music groupie , had metal studs in her tongue and clitoris , and beckoned him with the promise of sexual adventure ...
... woman , much younger , with whom he had once had a brief sexual encounter , reappeared in his life . Linda was a kind of music groupie , had metal studs in her tongue and clitoris , and beckoned him with the promise of sexual adventure ...
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... woman who seemed exciting , unknown , and adven- turous actually offered experiences that were circumscribed , pre- dictable , and emotionally shallow . Betty , the woman who seemed familiar and predictable actually offered experiences ...
... woman who seemed exciting , unknown , and adven- turous actually offered experiences that were circumscribed , pre- dictable , and emotionally shallow . Betty , the woman who seemed familiar and predictable actually offered experiences ...
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