Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time"A beautiful and brilliant reexamination of love and its perils."—Barbara Fisher, Boston Globe Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A. Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships—it becomes increasingly dangerous. What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks. "Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it."—Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon "[A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered."—Publishers Weekly "Cheerful, open, and humane—you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst."—Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review "[T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic."—JoAnn Gutin, Salon.com |
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... someone didn't know if he was " really in love " with another person ? How could these personal stalemates be opened up , energized in the process of therapy , allow- ing the person to arrive at a truly meaningful answer ? Was it an ...
... someone didn't know if he was " really in love " with another person ? How could these personal stalemates be opened up , energized in the process of therapy , allow- ing the person to arrive at a truly meaningful answer ? Was it an ...
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... someone else , often someone who is not immediately available . At one point Brett was involved with two women . Betty was around his age , of considerable intelligence and emotional maturity , and had begun to care deeply about him ...
... someone else , often someone who is not immediately available . At one point Brett was involved with two women . Betty was around his age , of considerable intelligence and emotional maturity , and had begun to care deeply about him ...
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... someone who comes from our home or with whom we have made a home , reflects a kind of matching , a pervasive resonance between what is inside us with what is outside us , between the past and the present , between what we were , what we ...
... someone who comes from our home or with whom we have made a home , reflects a kind of matching , a pervasive resonance between what is inside us with what is outside us , between the past and the present , between what we were , what we ...
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... someone else's wife fascinating ? When psychoanalysts try to explain something they do not understand , they often reduce it to a childhood precursor . Thus danger , the illicit , the crossing of boundaries , the lust for adven- ture ...
... someone else's wife fascinating ? When psychoanalysts try to explain something they do not understand , they often reduce it to a childhood precursor . Thus danger , the illicit , the crossing of boundaries , the lust for adven- ture ...
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