Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time"A beautiful and brilliant reexamination of love and its perils."—Barbara Fisher, Boston Globe Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A. Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships—it becomes increasingly dangerous. What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks. "Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it."—Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon "[A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered."—Publishers Weekly "Cheerful, open, and humane—you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst."—Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review "[T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic."—JoAnn Gutin, Salon.com |
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... relationships is far more emotionally risky ( and potentially exciting ) than throw- away trysts .... A- " -Entertainment Weekly " The book throws unsettling light on the dynamics of longstanding relationships , unsettling because ...
... relationships is far more emotionally risky ( and potentially exciting ) than throw- away trysts .... A- " -Entertainment Weekly " The book throws unsettling light on the dynamics of longstanding relationships , unsettling because ...
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... relationships - Psychological aspects . 2. Love . I. Title . 306.7 - dc21 HQ801 .M59 2002 2001044452 ISBN 0-393-32373-0 pbk . W. W. Norton & Company , Inc. , 500 Fifth Avenue , New York , N.Y. 10110 www.wwnorton.com W. W. Norton ...
... relationships - Psychological aspects . 2. Love . I. Title . 306.7 - dc21 HQ801 .M59 2002 2001044452 ISBN 0-393-32373-0 pbk . W. W. Norton & Company , Inc. , 500 Fifth Avenue , New York , N.Y. 10110 www.wwnorton.com W. W. Norton ...
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... relationships over time . My perspective on this complex topic developed slowly , an outgrowth of my clinical work and writing as well as of the wis- dom gained in the context of important relationships that have been a part of my ...
... relationships over time . My perspective on this complex topic developed slowly , an outgrowth of my clinical work and writing as well as of the wis- dom gained in the context of important relationships that have been a part of my ...
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... relationship with a particular important other . The questions seem easy enough to frame : What allows us to feel that our intimate relationships are passionate as well as mean- ingful ? Can this kind of meaningful passion last over ...
... relationship with a particular important other . The questions seem easy enough to frame : What allows us to feel that our intimate relationships are passionate as well as mean- ingful ? Can this kind of meaningful passion last over ...
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... relationship . A passionate sexual relationship with one's partner bodes poorly for tenderness and respect and vice versa . Psychoanalysis , which prides itself on reaching the deepest under- standing of emotional life , seemed to have ...
... relationship . A passionate sexual relationship with one's partner bodes poorly for tenderness and respect and vice versa . Psychoanalysis , which prides itself on reaching the deepest under- standing of emotional life , seemed to have ...
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