Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time"A beautiful and brilliant reexamination of love and its perils."—Barbara Fisher, Boston Globe Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A. Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships—it becomes increasingly dangerous. What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks. "Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it."—Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon "[A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered."—Publishers Weekly "Cheerful, open, and humane—you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst."—Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review "[T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic."—JoAnn Gutin, Salon.com |
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... Psychoanalysis ( 1997 ) Freud and Beyond ( with Margaret Black ) ( 1995 ) Hope and Dread in Psychoanalysis ( 1993 ) Relational Concepts in Psychoanalysis ( 1988 ) Object Relations in Psychoanalytic Theory ( with Jay Greenberg ) ( 1983 ) ...
... Psychoanalysis ( 1997 ) Freud and Beyond ( with Margaret Black ) ( 1995 ) Hope and Dread in Psychoanalysis ( 1993 ) Relational Concepts in Psychoanalysis ( 1988 ) Object Relations in Psychoanalytic Theory ( with Jay Greenberg ) ( 1983 ) ...
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... psychoanalysis : Neil Altman , Lew Aron , Tony Bass , Jessica Benjamin , Margaret Black , Philip Bromberg , Jody Davies , Muriel Dimen , Mannie Ghent , Adrienne Harris , and Spyros Orfanos . Your friendship and collaboration have been ...
... psychoanalysis : Neil Altman , Lew Aron , Tony Bass , Jessica Benjamin , Margaret Black , Philip Bromberg , Jody Davies , Muriel Dimen , Mannie Ghent , Adrienne Harris , and Spyros Orfanos . Your friendship and collaboration have been ...
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... Psychoanalysis , which prides itself on reaching the deepest under- standing of emotional life , seemed to have taken us to a conceptual dead end . Decades have passed since Freud lived and wrote , yet there has been astonishingly ...
... Psychoanalysis , which prides itself on reaching the deepest under- standing of emotional life , seemed to have taken us to a conceptual dead end . Decades have passed since Freud lived and wrote , yet there has been astonishingly ...
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... Psychoanalytic Dialogues , employing what was at the time a revolutionary format of publishing the nonclassical marginalized voices within psychoanalysis as well as organizing respectful dis- cussions among analysts of differing ...
... Psychoanalytic Dialogues , employing what was at the time a revolutionary format of publishing the nonclassical marginalized voices within psychoanalysis as well as organizing respectful dis- cussions among analysts of differing ...
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... psychoanalytic profession , the marginalization of homosexuals , the disenfranchised voices within psychoanalysis , the reconceptualiza- tion of psychoanalysis as a treatment ; he wrote many books and an abundance of papers . Now for ...
... psychoanalytic profession , the marginalization of homosexuals , the disenfranchised voices within psychoanalysis , the reconceptualiza- tion of psychoanalysis as a treatment ; he wrote many books and an abundance of papers . Now for ...
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