Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time"A beautiful and brilliant reexamination of love and its perils."—Barbara Fisher, Boston Globe Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A. Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships—it becomes increasingly dangerous. What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks. "Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it."—Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon "[A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered."—Publishers Weekly "Cheerful, open, and humane—you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst."—Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review "[T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic."—JoAnn Gutin, Salon.com |
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... Fantasy , and Illusions 93 4. Aggression and the Danger of Desire 119 5. Guilt and Self - Pity 145 6. Control and Commitment in Romantic Love 172 Notes 202 Index 217 Foreword Margaret Black , C.S.W. OUR WORLD IS FILLED with.
... Fantasy , and Illusions 93 4. Aggression and the Danger of Desire 119 5. Guilt and Self - Pity 145 6. Control and Commitment in Romantic Love 172 Notes 202 Index 217 Foreword Margaret Black , C.S.W. OUR WORLD IS FILLED with.
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... pity . What is it about romance that makes it so degradable ? Most peo- ple , and most psychological experts , have opinions . Here are some of the most popular : Romance fades because time and success are its enemies . Romance thrives ...
... pity . What is it about romance that makes it so degradable ? Most peo- ple , and most psychological experts , have opinions . Here are some of the most popular : Romance fades because time and success are its enemies . Romance thrives ...
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... pity ) . There is a ring of truth to each of these explanations , which is why they have such broad currency . However , their truths are only par- tial . We will be exploring each one , mining what is useful and recon- figuring partial ...
... pity ) . There is a ring of truth to each of these explanations , which is why they have such broad currency . However , their truths are only par- tial . We will be exploring each one , mining what is useful and recon- figuring partial ...
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