Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time"A beautiful and brilliant reexamination of love and its perils."—Barbara Fisher, Boston Globe Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A. Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships—it becomes increasingly dangerous. What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks. "Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it."—Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon "[A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered."—Publishers Weekly "Cheerful, open, and humane—you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst."—Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review "[T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic."—JoAnn Gutin, Salon.com |
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... inevitably leave , bags heavy with philosophy texts , poetry , a recently published novel , some obscure publication on physics that caught his attention , books on the mind , artificial intelligence , Buddhism , and , sometimes on ...
... inevitably leave , bags heavy with philosophy texts , poetry , a recently published novel , some obscure publication on physics that caught his attention , books on the mind , artificial intelligence , Buddhism , and , sometimes on ...
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... inevitably linked with the loss of a plausible belief in the existence of the Divine itself . It was as if , to paraphrase Nietzsche , God and our elevated sense of importance died together . But in recent years more thought- ful ...
... inevitably linked with the loss of a plausible belief in the existence of the Divine itself . It was as if , to paraphrase Nietzsche , God and our elevated sense of importance died together . But in recent years more thought- ful ...
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... inevitably and irreversibly , extraor- dinarily like the caregivers we require to nurture us through a lengthy dependency . And we spend our adult lives , to a consider- able extent , with other people : actually present people with ...
... inevitably and irreversibly , extraor- dinarily like the caregivers we require to nurture us through a lengthy dependency . And we spend our adult lives , to a consider- able extent , with other people : actually present people with ...
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... inevitable disillusionment . So romance tends to degrade into either sober , passionless respect or bitter ... inevitably betray one another miserably . Life itself is fundamentally tragic , and , ultimately , we all end up ...
... inevitable disillusionment . So romance tends to degrade into either sober , passionless respect or bitter ... inevitably betray one another miserably . Life itself is fundamentally tragic , and , ultimately , we all end up ...
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