Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time"A beautiful and brilliant reexamination of love and its perils."—Barbara Fisher, Boston Globe Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A. Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships—it becomes increasingly dangerous. What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks. "Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it."—Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon "[A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered."—Publishers Weekly "Cheerful, open, and humane—you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst."—Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review "[T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic."—JoAnn Gutin, Salon.com |
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User Review - Not Available - Book VerdictThis rather dry academic treatise on romantic love was written by a well-regarded clinician and supervising analyst at the William Alanson White Institute. Mitchell, who died in 2000, was the author ... Read full review
Contents
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The Strange Loops of Sexuality | 59 |
Idealization Fantasy and Illusions | 94 |
Aggression and the Danger of Desire | 120 |
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| Title | Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time |
| Author | Stephen A. Mitchell |
| Publisher | W. W. Norton & Company, 2003 |
| ISBN | 0393078485, 9780393078480 |
| Length | 224 pages |
| Subjects | › › Family & Relationships / Love & Romance Social Science / Sociology / Marriage & Family |
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