Raising Drug-Free Kids: 100 Tips for Parents

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Hachette Books, Mar 25, 2009 - Psychology - 240 pages
In a nation where an estimated 25 percent of high-school seniors use illegal substances on a monthly basis, parents are wise to be concerned about setting their children on a drug-free course. While much advice handed out these days focuses on teen behavior and on what to do once drugs have become a problem in the home, Raising Drug-Free Kids takes an innovative approach and focuses instead on preventative measures that can be followed early on in a child's life. Developmental psychologist and parent educator Aletha Solter provides parents with simple, easy-to use tools to build a solid foundation for children to say "no" to drugs. Organized by age group, from preschool through young adulthood, the handy 100 tips will show parents how to help their children to: Feel good about themselves without an artificial high. Cope with stress so they won't turn to drugs to relax. Respect their bodies so they will reject harmful substances. Have close family connections so they won't feel desperate to belong to a group. Take healthy risks (like outdoor adventures) so they won't need to take dangerous ones.

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Dont be overprotective
Teach your child ways to get high without drugs
Build selfesteem through mastery and success
Minimize competition in sports and games
Avoid negative comments about your childs weight or appearance
Dont tell your child that he is too sensitive
Be aware of sexist stereotypes and oppression for girls
Be aware of sexist stereotypes and oppression for boys

Create a climate of emotional safety
Find healthy ways to cope with stress
Look for the true sources of your anger at your children
Live your values
Take care of your body
Birth to Age 3
Breastfeed but beware of drugs
Never leave your baby to cry alone
Dont give your baby drugs to sleep
Respect your childs body
Respect your childs attachment needs
Allow your toddler to say no
Elicit cooperation through nonauthoritarian methods
Be patient with temper tantrums
Dont force your child to
Teach your child emotional literacy
Ages 3 to 6
Dont punish your child
Dont isolate your child to control her behavior
Dont use rewards or bribes
Turn off the
Dont pressure your child to read
Let your child make decisions
Encourage healthy eating but trust your childs food preferences
Allow your child to
Allow your child to express fear and anger
Teach your child how the human body works
Teach your child the difference between poison medicine and food
Ages 6 to 12
Volunteer at your childs school
Encourage but dont pressure your child to be academically successful
Be aware of your childs learning style
Avoid stimulant medications
Address the underlying causes of hyperactive or inattentive behavior
Find afterschool activities for your child
Teach your child to cope with boredom
Help your child find a peer group
Get to know your childs friends and their parents
Establish family traditions
Hold family meetings
Teach responsibility
Give an allowance but dont use money as a reward
Take action if your child is being bullied or victimized
Get professional help if your child has experienced trauma
Allow your child to grieve following a loss
Look for warning signs of serious emotional problems
Give your child information about drugs
Teach your child the legal consequences of using drugs
Teach your child media and consumer awareness
Ages 12 to 18
Do things together as a family
Dont pressure your child to grow up too soon
Remember that fathers are important
Provide adequate supervision
Respect your teens privacy
Listen listen listen
Communicate your own feelings and needs
Solve conflicts democratically
Deal wisely with conflicts of values
Come to a mutual agreement about curfews
Encourage healthy risks
Introduce your teen to spiritual practices
Encourage your teen to do something to improve the world
Help your teen feel physically attractive
Dont underestimate the impact of racial stereotypes
Be aware of the higher risk of drug abuse among homosexual teens
Identify sources of family stress
Identify sources of school stress
Teach your teen stressmanagement skills
Look for signs of depression
Support drug prevention efforts in your city
Share information about drugs through teachable moments
Teach your teen about addiction and the brain
Explain why drug use is especially risky during adolescence
Describe how drugs can affect your teens appearance
Roleplay imaginary scenarios involving drugs
Be alert for signs of drug
Avoid five major mistakes if your child has tried drugs
Confront your teen lovingly if you suspect occasional drug
If your teen regularly abuses drugs convince him to get treatment
Ages 18 to 25

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Aletha Solter, Ph.D., is a Swiss-American developmental psychologist, international speaker, and founder of the Aware Parenting Institute. She is the author of three books, including The Aware Baby, which has sold more than 100,000 copies worldwide. She lives in Goleta, California.

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