Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of NarcissismIn this groundbreaking book -- the first popular book on narcissism in more than a decade -- clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the "Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism" and their origins. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism -- Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, Bad Boundaries -- and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation. Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation, and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life. |
Contents
Magical Thinking | |
Arrogance | |
Envy | |
Know Yourself | |
Embrace Reality | |
Set Boundaries | |
Cultivate Reciprocal Relationships | |
Whats Normal What Isnt | |
The Shame Connection | |
The Fusion Delusion | |
The Abuse of Power | |
Entitlement | |
Exploitation | |
Bad Boundaries | |
Where Does Narcissism Come From? | |
Childhood Narcissism and the Birth of Me | |
The Narcissistic Parent | |
Defending Your Self Survival Strategies for a Narcissistic World | |
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Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism Sandy Hotchkiss No preview available - 2008 |
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