All Things Consoled: A Daughter's MemoirFrom Elizabeth Hay, one of Canada's beloved novelists, comes a startling and beautiful memoir about the drama of her parents' end, and the longer drama of being their daughter. Winner of the 2018 Hilary Weston Writers' Trust Prize for Nonficiton. Jean and Gordon Hay were a colourful, formidable pair. Jean, a late-blooming artist with a marvellous sense of humour, was superlatively frugal; nothing got wasted, not even maggoty soup. Gordon was a proud and ambitious schoolteacher with a terrifying temper, a deep streak of melancholy, and a devotion to flowers, cars, words, and his wife. As old age collides with the tragedy of living too long, these once ferociously independent parents become increasingly dependent on Lizzie, the so-called difficult child. By looking after them in their final decline, she hopes to prove that she can be a good daughter after all. In this courageous memoir, written with tough-minded candour, tenderness, and wit, Elizabeth Hay lays bare the exquisite agony of a family's dynamics--entrenched favouritism, sibling rivalries, grievances that last for decades, genuine admiration, and enduring love. In the end, she reaches a more complete understanding of the most unforgettable characters she will ever know, the vivid giants in her life who were her parents. |
Contents
Section 1 | 3 |
Section 2 | 19 |
Section 3 | 39 |
Section 4 | 53 |
Section 5 | 79 |
Section 6 | 91 |
Section 7 | 109 |
Section 8 | 123 |
Section 10 | 147 |
Section 11 | 159 |
Section 12 | 177 |
Section 13 | 195 |
Section 14 | 219 |
Section 15 | 249 |
Section 16 | 263 |
Section 9 | 137 |
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