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difficult to find out so proper a Patron for it as Your Self, there being none whose Mețit is more "universally acknowledged by allParties, and who has made himself more Friends and fewer Enemies. Your great Abilities, and unquestioned Integrity, in those high Employments which You have passed through, would not have been able to have raised You this general Approbation, had they not been accompanied with that Moderation in an high Forcune, and that Affability of Manners, which are so conspicuous through all Parts , of your Life. Your Aversion to any Ostentatious Arts of setting to show those
great Services which You have done the Publick; has not likewise a little contributed to that Universal Acknowledgment which is paid You by your Country.
THE Consideration of this Part of Your Character, is that which hinders me from enlarging on those Exţraordinary Talents, which have given You so great a Figure in the Britis Senate, as well as on that Elegance and Politeness which appear in Your more retired Conversation. I should be unpardonable, if, after what I have said, I should longer detain You with an Address of this Nature :
I cannot, however, conclude it ..::17AT? A z je without
N° 170. Friday, September 14. 1711.
In amore bec omnia infunt vitia: injuria,
PON looking over the Letters of my fea male Correspondents, I find several from Women complaining of jealous Husbands, and at the same time protesting their own Innocence; and defiring my Advice on
this Occasion. I shall therefore take this Subject into my Consideration ; and the more willingly, because I find that the Marquiss of Hallifax, who, in his Advice to a Daughter, has instructed a Wife how to be. have herself towards a false, an intemperate, a cholerick, a sullen, a covetous or a filly Husband, has not spoken one Word of a jealous Husband.
JEALOUSY is that Pain which a Man feels from the Apprehenfion that he is not equally beloved by the Perfon whom he intirely loves. Now because our inward Passions and Inclinations can never make themselves,
visible, it is impossible for a jealous Man to be throughly cured of his Suspicions. His Thoughts hang at best in a State of Doubtfulness and Uncertainty ; and are never capable of receiving any Satisfaction on the advantageous Side ; so that his Inquiries are most successful when they discover nothing : His Pleasure arises from his Disappointments, and his Life is spent in Pursuit of a Secret that destroys his Happiness if he chance to find it.
AN ardent Love is always a strong Ingredient in this Passion ; for the same Affection which stirs up the jealous Man's Desires, and gives the Party beloved so beautifula Figure in his Imagination, makes him believe she kindles * the fame Passion in others, and appears as amiable to all Beholders. And as Jealousy thus arises from an extraordinary Love, it is of fo delicate a Nature, that it scorns to take up with any thing less than an equal Return of Love. Not the warmest Expressions of Affection, the softest and most tender Hypocrisy, are able to give any Satif. faction, where we are not persuaded that the Affection is real and the Satisfaction mutual. For the jealous Man wishes himself a kind of Deity to the Person he loves : He would be the only Pleasure of her Senses, the Em. ployment of her Thoughts; and is angry at every thing the admires, or takes Delight in, besides himself.'
PHÆDRIA's Request to his Mistress, upon his leaving her for three Days, is inimitably beautiful and natural.
Cum milite ifto præfens, absens ut fres: .. Diés, noftefque me ames: me de fidéres : · Me fomnes: me expeétes : de me cogites: ..Mesperes: me te oblectes: 'mècum tota fis: Meus fac fis poftremò animus, quando ego sum tuus.
THE jealous Man's Disease is of fo malignant a Nature, that it converts all it takes into its own Nourish; ment. A cool Behaviour fets him on the Rack, and is interpreted as an Instance of Averfion or Indifference ;. a* fond one raises his Suspicions, and looks too much like Diflimulation and Artifice. If the Person he loves be chearful, her Thoughts must be employed on another ;