Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism

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Free Press, Jun 20, 2008 - Self-Help - 240 pages
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In this groundbreaking book -- the first popular book on narcissism in more than a decade -- clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the "Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism" and their origins. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism -- Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, Bad Boundaries -- and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation.
Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation, and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life.

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This is actually a very good, easy to read, survey of the subject of narcissism. It is organized and well written but unfortunately lacks the depth that is needed. Read full review

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After going through a breakup with a person who is selfish, I went looking for a book to help me through. This book helped me figure out I was in an unhealthy relationship for many years. I saw myself ... Read full review

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Sandy Hotchkiss, LCSW teaches in the Master's Program at the University of Southern California School of Social Work and has a private practice in psychotherapy. A fellow of the California Society for Clinical Social Work, she lives in the Los Angeles area.

Masterson, Director of Masterson Institute for Psychoanalytic Psychotheapy; Emeritus Professor of Psychiatry, Cornell University Medical College, New York Hospital.

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