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longer detain you with an address of this nature: I cannot, however, conclude it without owning those great obligations which you have laid upon,
YOUR MOST OBEDIENT,
A Description of jealousy
It's cure, with the story of Herod and Mariamne 177
On the immortality of the foul
213 On punctuality and dependence
214 On education
215 Tom Maggot's account of Freeman's fuccefs 216 Description of the club of She-Romps
217 On reputation
218 The use of ambition when rightly directed
219 Letters, to an ungracious lover ; on authors, &c. 220 On the Motto's at the head and Marks at the end of each paper
221 On misapplication of talents
222 An account of the poetess Sappho, with her hymn to Venus223 On ambition
224 An essay on discretion
225 On Raphael's Cartons at Hampton-Court
226 A defcription of the Lover's Leap, with Davith ap Shenkyn's letter
227 On inquisitiveness
228 A fragment of Sappho, transated by Catullus, Boileau and Phillips
229 On benevolence and education
230 On modely
232 History of the Lover's Leap
233 On a new species of lying, and on free-thinking 234 An account of the Trunkmaker in the upper gallery 235 On marriage, with a letter from Tristissa
236 On curiosity
237 On flattery
238 On the management of a debate
239 Letters on hercic virtue, good-breeding, &c. 240 On absence in love
241 On ill-manners. An affeding scene of distress, &c. 242 On virtue
243 On painting
244 On the knowledge of the world
245 On the nursing of children 246 On laughter
249 On female oratory 247 On the cries of LonOn generosity 248 don
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N° 170. Friday, September 14, 1711.
In amore hæc omnia insunt vilia : injuriæ,
All these inconveniencies are incident to love : Re
proaches, jealousies, quarrels, reconcilements, war,
and then peace. UPON
PON looking over the letters of my female correspondents, I find several from women complaining of jealous husbands, and at the same time protesting their own innocence; and desiring my advice on this occasion. I shall therefore take this subject into my
confideration ; and the more willingly, because I find that the marquis of Hallifax, who, in his Advice to a Daughter, has instructed a wife how to behave herself towards a false, an intenıperate, a choleric, a sullen, a covetous, or a filly husband, has not spoken one word of a jealous husband.
Jealousy is that pain which a man feels from the apprehension that he is not equally beloved by the person whom he intirely loves. Now because our inward
pafsions and inclinations can never make themselves vifible, it is impoffible for a jealous man to be thoroughly cured of his suspicions. His thoughts hang at best in a state of doubtfulness and uncertainty; and are never capable of receiving any satisfaction on the advantageous side ; so that his inquiries are more successful when they discover nothing. His pleasure arises from his disappointments, ard his life is spent in pursuit of a secret that destroys his happiness if he chance to find it.
An ardent love is always a strong ingredient in this paflion ; for the fame affection which stirs up the jealous man's desires, and gives the party beloved so beautiful a figure in his imagination, makes him believe the kindles the same passion in others, and appears as amiable to all beholders. And as jealousy thus arises from an extraordinary love, it is of to delicate a nature, that it fcorns to take up with any thing less than an equal return of love. Not the warmeit expressions of affection, the softest and moit tender hypocrisy, are able to give any fatisfaction, where we are not persuaded that the affection is real, and the satisfaction mutual. For the jealous man wishes himself a kind of deity to the person he loves : he would be the only pleasure of her senses, the employment of her thoughts ; and is angry at every thing the admires, or takes delight in, besides bimself
Phædria's request to his mistress upon his leaving her for three days, is inimitably beautiful and natural.
Cum milite isto præfens, abfens ut hes :
TER. Eun. A&t. 1. Sc. 2. When you are in company with that soldier, behave if
you were absent: but continue to love me by day and by night: want me ; dream of me; expect ine ; think of me; wish for me; delight in me : be wholly with me : in short, be my very soul, as I am yours.'
The jealous man's disease is of fo malignant a nature, that it converts all he takes into its own nourishment.