Necessary Losses: The Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Ex

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Simon and Schuster, May 11, 2010 - Self-Help - 448 pages
From grief and mourning to aging and relationships, poet and Redbook contributor Judith Viorst presents a thoughtful and researched study in this examination of love, loss, and letting go.

Drawing on psychoanalysis, literature, and personal experience, Necessary Losses is a philosophy for understanding and accepting life’s inevitabilities.

In Necessary Losses, Judith Viorst turns her considerable talents to a serious and far-reaching subject: how we grow and change through the losses that are a certain and necessary part of life. She argues persuasively that through the loss of our mothers’ protection, the loss of the impossible expectations we bring to relationships, the loss of our younger selves, and the loss of our loved ones through separation and death, we gain deeper perspective, true maturity, and fuller wisdom about life. She has written a book that is both life affirming and life changing.
 

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Contents

NTRODUCTION
16
PART THE SEPARATE SELF Chapter I The High Cost of Separation
21
The Ultimate Connection
34
Standing Alone
43
The Private I
51
Lessons in Love
66
PART THE FORBIDDEN AND THE IMPOSSIBLE
81
When Are You Taking That New Kid Back to the Hospital?
83
Convenience Friends and Historical Friends and Crossroads and CrossGenerational Friends and Friends Who Come When You Call at Two in the Mo...
170
Love and Hate in the Married State
185
Saving the Children
205
Family Feelings
223
LOVING LOS ING LEAVING LETTING GO Chapter 16 Love and Mourning
237
Shifting Images
265
I Grow Old I Grow Old
284
The ABC of Dying
305

Passionate Triangles
100
Anatomy and Destiny IIS Chapter 9 Good as Guilt
130
Childhoods End
142
PART MPERFECT CONNECTIONS Chapter II Dreams and Realities
161
Reconnections
325
BLIOGRAPHY
417
ND EX
432
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About the author (2010)

Judith Viorst is the author of the beloved Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day, which has sold some four million copies; the Lulu books, including Lulu and the Brontosaurus; the New York Times bestseller Necessary Losses; four musicals; and poetry for children and young adults. Her most recent books of poetry include What Are You Glad About? What Are You Mad About? and Nearing Ninety.

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