The Reality Slap: How to Find Fulfilment When Life Hurts

Front Cover
Exisle Publishing, Sep 8, 2011 - Self-Help - 240 pages
The ‘reality slap’ takes many different forms. Sometimes it is so violent it’s more like a punch: the death of a loved one, a serious illness, a major injury, a freak accident, a shocking crime, a disabled child, the loss of a job; bankruptcy, betrayal, fire, flood, divorce or disaster. Sometimes it’s a little gentler: envy, loneliness, resentment, failure, disappointment or rejection. But whatever form it takes, one thing’s for sure: it hurts! And most of us don’t deal with the pain very well. This book is based on a scientifically proven mindfulness-based approach called ‘Acceptance and Commitment Therapy’ (ACT). Within these pages, you will learn how to cope effectively when life hurts: not just how to survive, but how to thrive. Using the proven principles of ACT, you’ll discover how to:• find peace in the midst of your pain• find calm in the midst of your chaos• anchor yourself in the midst of emotional storms• increase your sense of connection with yourself and others• use your painful emotions to cultivate wisdom and compassion• find fulfilment even when you can’t get what you want• heal your wounds, and come through stronger than before.
 

What people are saying - Write a review

LibraryThing Review

User Review  - Carpe_Librum - LibraryThing

I first came across the work of Dr Russ Harris when I started listening to his 'Mindfulness of the Breath' CD. I've had great success with his CD so I was looking forward to reading one of his many ... Read full review

User Review - Flag as inappropriate

Sure this is a good book if you are a person not suffering from chronic pain. But don't be fooled into thinking that this book offers anything tangible in coping with chronic pain. Death of a loved one, anxiety, depression set backs in life, then this is a very sensible read. It explains thought procedures and mindfulness and all sorts of emotional goodies to put you on the right mental and emotional track. Starts off by explaining how devestating having his autistic child was and how he emotionally grew with it. Well big deal. The author pays less than lipservice to intrusive chronic pain and should have had the decency to have left that topic alone as he obviously has no practical or theoretical skills in dealing with it.
If you are in chronic pain you were learn little.
 

Contents

The Four Steps
8
Anchors Away
108
Coming Home
119
TAKE A STAND
125
Whats My Purpose?
126
Purpose and Pain
135
What Really Counts?
145
The Four Approaches
151
To Stand and Stare
183
Pain Into Poetry
192
1
199
Mindfulness of the Breath
205
Values Clarification
208
7
209
Goal Setting
213
ABA RFT and Child Development
218

Holding Hot Coals
162
Its Never Too Late
167
FIND THE TREASURE
173
Its A Privilege
174
Resources
221
Acknowledgements
227
63
228
Copyright

Other editions - View all

Common terms and phrases

About the author (2011)

Dr Russ Harris is a medical practitioner, psychotherapist, and bestselling author of 'The Happiness Trap', which has now been translated into 22 languages. He is one of the world’s leading authorities in ACT, and regularly travels all over Australia and internationally to train a wide variety of professionals in the approach. His other books include 'The Happiness Trap Pocketbook', 'The Confidence Gap', 'ACT With Love', 'ACT Made Simple', and the fictional novel 'Stand Up Strummer'.

Bibliographic information