Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstanding

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Harper Collins, Nov 30, 2010 - Family & Relationships - 432 pages

“Overflowing with insights, advice and exercises which add up to the solutions that may save a failing marriage or make a good relationship better.” —Dennis Wholey, author of The Courage to Change

With eloquence and accessibility, world-renowned psychiatrist Dr. Aaron T. Beck—widely hailed as the "father of cognitive behavioral therapy"—analyzes the actual dialogue of troubled couples to illuminate the most common problems in marriage: the power of negative thinking, disillusionment, rigid rules and expectations, and miscommunication.

 

Contents

The Cognitive Revolution in Psychology Dissolution of Marital
8
THE LIGHT AND THE DARKNESS
35
BREAKING THE RULES
69
Setting Expectations Making the RulesApplying the Rules
87
Indirectness and Ambiguity Defensiveness Missing the Message
107
BREAKDOWN OF
114
Secret Doubts Origin of Doubts about Self and Spouse The Secret
149
How Symbolic Meanings Twist Our ThinkingThe Spreading Fac
167
Loving and Being Loved Keeping Track of Positive BehaviorLift
248
CHANGING YOUR
254
THE ART OF CONVERSATION
274
Pinpointing Problems in Communication Rules of Conversational
281
THE ART OF WORKING
293
TROUBLESHOOTING
313
Clarification of Differences Understanding Your Mates Perspec
320
SPECIAL PROBLEMS
357

IMPROVE?
195
REINFORCING THE FOUNDATIONS
217
TUNING UP THE RELATIONSHIP
235
NOTES
387
INDEX
401
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About the author (2010)

Aaron T. Beck, M.D., widely known as the father of cognitive therapy, was University Professor Emeritus at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine and president of the Beck Institute for Cognitive Therapy and Research. He graduated magna cum laude and Phi Beta Kappa from Brown University, and went on to attend Yale Medical School. He received more than 18 major professional awards from associations such as the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychiatric Association, the American Psychological Association, and the American Psychopathological Association.