First Comes Marriage: Modern Relationship Advice from the Wisdom of Arranged Marriages

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Simon and Schuster, Jun 3, 2008 - Family & Relationships - 208 pages

Seven time-tested secrets to dating the husband
of your dreams -- taken from the centuries-old
tradition of arranged marriages

Want commitment, love, and romance? Forget The Rules, and stop waiting for an idealized Prince Charming. In First Comes Marriage, Reva Seth shares the wisdom of more than three hundred women in arranged marriages...and shows how this classic tradition can teach twenty-first-century women important lessons about how to find -- and keep -- Mr. Right.

The men you date will become the men you marry. The seven secrets in this counterintuitive guide will help you become more selective and increase your chances of finding the right person to share your life with. Seth knows her secrets work -- she married her husband after only meeting him seven times.
  • Secret #1: Your man doesn't have to be your best friend.
    (That's why you've had a best girlfriend all along, right?)
  • Secret #4: It doesn't matter if he doesn't dance.
    (Common interests are less important than shared values.)
  • Secret #6: Sexual chemistry isn't always organic.
    (Attraction can be created -- if you know how to unlock your passion.)

A practical, surprisingly progressive guide to love and romance, First Comes Marriage will open your eyes to what makes a guy perfect for you...and will help you find him, date him, and keep falling in love with him forever.

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About the author (2008)

Reva Seth is a journalist whose articles on arranged marriages have appeared in national newspapers across the U.K. and Canada, including The Globe and Mail. Seth and her husband live in London and Toronto with their son.

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